Testimonial: Waiting for the pairing

We are waiting for a match, we are waiting for our social worker to call us saying “we have a proposal to make you...”

The delay varies greatly from one region to another, and it depends on the number of criteria you have in relation to the child. It can take up to 2 years, but it can also go very quickly, if you have shown openness in your criteria and if you live in a region where there are many needs.

We received our call 6 weeks after being accredited!

The phone is ringing... “Hi she's your social worker, we have a proposal for you, we have a proposal for you, she was born yesterday... can you come and meet us this afternoon at the DPJ office, we will talk to you about this child”.

I'm telling you, at that moment, the earth stops spinning for a short 2 seconds. All emotions pass at the same time like a train traveling at 200 miles per hour.

I'm calling darling at work:

— “Hi darling, do you have time to talk to me? ”

— “No.”

— “Not bad, I'm telling you anyway! A casserole awaits us, we go to the DPJ at 3 am. Call me back when you have time” (and I'm hanging up!) It wasn't long before he called me back!

During this meeting, we are presented with all the known information about the mother, father and child (both medical and social information). We don't see the child at this meeting, but we have the impression that we already know him a bit!

We are given the night to think and we are asked to call our TS the next day, to tell him if we want to continue with this project or not.

In our case, when we arrived home, we already left a message on our TS's voicemail, to confirm that we wanted to continue the process with this casserole!

What's next? One of the most beautiful moments of our lives, we meet Cocotte! It is a moment as intense as giving birth, that moment when we hold this child in our arms. A time when we promise to care for, comfort, cherish, and protect that child as if it were our own child. She is promised that her life will be sweet now and that we will build something strong together. Something that, despite the cuts he has experienced in the past, will be knitted tightly.

At this point, we are still given the choice to abandon this project or to continue. We had already brought the shell to comfortably seat baby in our car. So we left with a casserole, our hearts filled with love. Our heart was not divided into 3, but it grew bigger, to welcome a new little being.

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